The Snob Profiled on SheThrives Network

Recently I gave an interview to SheThrives, a new web site for women, about my life as a writer and blogger. Here's a snippet: 

... the blog really resonated with people. They really enjoyed the content and it validated me because I felt, when I was in journalism, it was really hard for me to breakout. I worked for a lot of small town newspapers and I lived in small markets. And, it’s really hard to get the attention of major magazines and publications when you go to a no name university and you work in Bakersfield. So, the internet was really a way to level the playing ground for me to show that I did have the type of skills that could resonate with a larger audience. That could transfer on a larger scale nationally and without the internet, I don’t think I would be able to do that. I think I’d be still be stuck. Small towns, I probably wouldn’t even be in journalism anymore. I don’t know what I’d be doing if it weren’t for the website.

You can check out all three parts of the interview here. (Part 1, Part 2, Part 3)

The Snob Named Among the Ten Best ... Interracial Dating Blogs? Who knew!

Never one to look a gift honor in the mouth, ye olde Snob Blog was named by DatingAdvice.com as one of the top ten Interracial Dating blogs. I don't actually write that much about interracial dating (or any kind of dating), but when I do, I try to be fair. My mantra is pretty much love who you wanna love and don't treat people of different races like exotic animals, stereotypes or objects to be possessed. I was honored along with sites The Root, Beyond Black & White and more. Check out who else made the list here.

Clutch Magazine: How to Make Nothing Your Fault Like A Celebrity

After Lauryn Hill's life took yet another turn for the tragic (yet she remained unrepentant), I started thinking, "Wow. That takes balls, or really strong self-delusion or perhaps ... both." So I wrote a post about it for Clutch Magazine Online, counting off all the ways you can make anything everyone's fault but your own.

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The Snob Talks NPR's "African American Lives Today" Survey

Tuesday The Snob returned to Tell Me More with Michel Martin to talk about NPR and Harvard University's poll of African American views on racism, finances, relationships, their communities and healthcare. For the discussion I was joined by author Gil Robertson, regular "Tell Me More" parenting contributor Dani Tucker, and Howard University Professor Ivory Toldson. The poll had results both surprising (more black men are looking for a committed relationship than black women), and unsurprising (black people overwhelmingly value education).

Check it out.

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The Snob to Be on NPR Today

Making a return to NPR's Tell Me More with Michel Martin, I'll be on during a piece about Humbolt Prof. Monica Stephens' interactive Geography of Hate map -- a map of Twitter users using racial, homophobic and other slurs negatively online. Check your local listings for when Tell Me More airs to hear the show today and to hear myself, Stephens and Martin discuss the map.

The Snob Among Hello Beautiful's 25 Women to Know 2013

Yup. Yours truly, along with Francesca Ramsey, Patrice Grell Yursik (aka Afrobella), Awesomely Luvvie, Angela Yee, Necole Bitchie and many more were all honored by sites Hello Beautiful and Black Planet for being among the 25 Women to Watch in 2013. Last year (and this year) have been quite the years for the ol' Snob as I wound up in all sorts of places: editor-at-large for Clutch Magazine Online, quoted in Ms. Magazine, head writer of a TV show (that sadly was cancelled, waaaaaaaah!), a regular on NPR (Happy Birthday, Michel Martin of Tell Me More!), I'm writing a book (as always), I'm writing a TV pilot (that's new!) and I'm, as always, doing media appearances on any and everything while staying on my grind. It's not a bad life. So far I've managed to keep afloat without completely burning out, resorting to hysterics or starting a new life making my "livin's" via casino theme games. (Perhaps ones involving Spades as that's the only card game I know besides UNO and Go Fish. Can you get rich off Go Fish?) But life has been good to me and you guys, my readers, have been good to me through all the ups and downs and changes in job titles. I appreciate it. I hope I'm still doing things worth watching in 2014 and years to come.

The Snob Quoted This Month In Ms. Magazine

Guess which story I was interviewed for? Durr. Beyonce. It's always Beyonce.

Point #1: I like how Ms. found one of the most conservative photos ever of King Bey. It's like a photo from the time she got bored and decided to enter and win the Miss America beauty pageant.

Point #2: That headline is missing a question mark as in the interview with author Janell Hobson we were debating if Beyonce's actions and lyrics could be considered feminist. VERDICT IS STILL OUT!

Check the magazine out on newsstands this spring and summer.

I'm also quoted this week in an article about black people and mental illness on The Root, written by mi amiga Keli Goff. Check that out as well here.

The Snob Talks Danny Brown and Consent on NPR

Rapper Danny BrownThis Wednesday on NPR's Tell Me More with Michel Martin, I was on discussing rapper Danny Brown being fellated by a fan from the audience as he was rapping on stage. Rapper Kitty Pryde, who is touring with Brown, condemned the act, calling it sexual assault. For me, this was about consent (which is the basis of sexual assault). Whether Brown enjoyed it or not is a non-factor as he had no way of consenting to anything if he was on stage performing. Despite popular belief, men (especially black men) are not sex automatons, ready to go at anytime incapable of being molested, assaulted or raped. They do get a say about who they want to have sex with and when.

Check out the convo, featuring myself, Prof. Mark Anthony Neal, Deputy Director Malik Washington of the William Kellibrew Foundation, and Village Voice music critic Jessica Hopper.

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Nobody's Mother on Mother's Day

My mother and her baby (my baby sister) who eventually went on to be the only one of us to have a baby."Happy Mother's Day!" He said, so happy and bright and full of expectation.

In the past I used to say, "Oh, I'm not a mother" but that seemed to endlessly disappoint the black men who said this to me with all the vigor saying it to their own beloved mothers. So now, unless someone on Twitter or Facebook says it to me (aka, my friends who should know I ain't birthed nobody's baby), I just smile and nod and go on.

But this happens because I'm in my mid-30s and, statistically, I should be someone's mother by now. I'm a once married (more than a decade ago) African American woman over 30. How did I make it this far without a kid? The answer is an easy one.

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