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Entries in dating (33)


Clutch Magazine: Just You and Your Cats, Together Forever

Tuesday for Clutch Magazine I wrote the ultimate guide for staying single so it's just you and your cats until you shuffle off the mortal coil. Mostly it was about not bathing, being a jerk and generally removing yourself from the dating game altogether. Here's a taste: "I find that nothing gets people to ignore the crap out of you like not bathing for several days. It works for the homeless. Look at how people just step over them in the street. It’s that powerful. Also, let yourself go. You don't want to 'accidentally' attract someone by still 'being cute.'" 

Read the full post at Clutch Magazine Online.


Clutch Magazine: Ambivalent About Marriage, Serious About Love

In Monday's post for Clutch Magazine Online I wrote about that while black women have some of the greatest self-esteem around, some of us are desperate for any sign that we are desired, leading to some pretty compromising situations. Here's a snippet: "(T)here has been documented story after story after story of black women – often in a panic – over marriage. Personally, I think there are more panicking articles than actual panicking black women, but they do touch on one singular truth – some of us are never going to get married. Some of us really don’t want to be part of that some that won’t. So some of us say some really crazy stuff in this Great Man Panic of the 2000s."

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Clutch Magazine: The Female Friendzone

Last week I wrote a post on women who get stuck on guys who don't want them. And I mean really don't want them. Some people call this getting stuck in the "friendzone." I call it "auditioning" to be someone's girlfriend when they could care less. Here's a snippet: "I learned the hard way if a boy (or by extension, a man) wants to be with you, he’ll act like he wants to be with you. It was a hard lesson to learn, but I can’t say that every person learns it."

Read the full post on Clutch Magazine Online.