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Over the past week-and-a-half Clutch Magazine online began running several posts by yours truly about modern lady life, starting with a humorous piece that asks "Is Your Marriage Too Big to Fail?" -- the answer to the question of why people stay in unhappy marriages, instead of bolting after 72 days like a certain reality TV star.
Opening with a brief recap of how people went on divorce watch for the still married "sexting" former Congressman Anthony Weiner and his wife, Huma Abedin, I outline all the reasons why a public disaster doesn't necessarily mean "it's over," including the ol' "My Marriage Is My Career," "Us Against the World," "The Mokenstef Rule," "The Kids" and "No Easy Way Out."
Here's a sample from Clutch:
Us Against the World: When your spouse was caught cheating your response wasn’t “how dare he” but “how dare you bring this up!” You jam is Crowded House’s “Don’t Dream It’s Over” because of the line “Don’t let them win.” While you two might be together because of some semblance of love, you’re also together out of a great deal of spite for all your detractors. Maybe how you got together was messy. Perhaps you were both cheating on others before you hooked up. Maybe your family just really, really hates this guy. “They” say it will never last and they point to all your problems as proof as to why it shouldn’t. But yet, there you two are, still together! You showed them! Sometimes the world being against your love only brings you closer together. (Case in point: The Clintons, Alicia Keys and Swizz Beatz, Jackie and Doug Christie, Angelina Jolie and Brad Pitt, your dysfunctional parents who you wish would break up already)
Also on Clutch by yours truly ...
- Pantsless Wonder or the post where I blame porn culture for why women (and men) are suddenly concerned about the shape and size of a woman's labia. Quote: "The “lady-est” of lady parts is now everywhere. It’s out. And like every other lady part, it’s up for judgment and, woefully, falling short."
- Tell Them About It, aka the post where I gauge when it's appropriate to talk about your prison record and other "dating fatalities" to your potential significant other. Quote: "Someone may not dump you for being Bipolar or an addict, but they may use it as a catch-all excuse to treat you poorly."
- The Wet and Wavy Womanizer and the Long Hair Fetish, a repost of a story that originally ran here on the Snob Blog in 2009 about my experiences with certain black men who have a certain kind of hair obsession. Quote: "I am not my hair, as the song goes, but it seems that if you have a lot of hair and you don’t mind dating the occasional completely superficial fetishist you TOO can wallow in the shallow love of the impossible beauty standard."