The Snob Is Talking Lady Business For Clutch Magazine
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Over the past week-and-a-half Clutch Magazine online began running several posts by yours truly about modern lady life, starting with a humorous piece that asks "Is Your Marriage Too Big to Fail?" -- the answer to the question of why people stay in unhappy marriages, instead of bolting after 72 days like a certain reality TV star.
Opening with a brief recap of how people went on divorce watch for the still married "sexting" former Congressman Anthony Weiner and his wife, Huma Abedin, I outline all the reasons why a public disaster doesn't necessarily mean "it's over," including the ol' "My Marriage Is My Career," "Us Against the World," "The Mokenstef Rule," "The Kids" and "No Easy Way Out."
Here's a sample from Clutch:
Us Against the World: When your spouse was caught cheating your response wasn’t “how dare he” but “how dare you bring this up!” You jam is Crowded House’s “Don’t Dream It’s Over” because of the line “Don’t let them win.” While you two might be together because of some semblance of love, you’re also together out of a great deal of spite for all your detractors. Maybe how you got together was messy. Perhaps you were both cheating on others before you hooked up. Maybe your family just really, really hates this guy. “They” say it will never last and they point to all your problems as proof as to why it shouldn’t. But yet, there you two are, still together! You showed them! Sometimes the world being against your love only brings you closer together. (Case in point: The Clintons, Alicia Keys and Swizz Beatz, Jackie and Doug Christie, Angelina Jolie and Brad Pitt, your dysfunctional parents who you wish would break up already)
Also on Clutch by yours truly ...
- Pantsless Wonder or the post where I blame porn culture for why women (and men) are suddenly concerned about the shape and size of a woman's labia. Quote: "The “lady-est” of lady parts is now everywhere. It’s out. And like every other lady part, it’s up for judgment and, woefully, falling short."
- Tell Them About It, aka the post where I gauge when it's appropriate to talk about your prison record and other "dating fatalities" to your potential significant other. Quote: "Someone may not dump you for being Bipolar or an addict, but they may use it as a catch-all excuse to treat you poorly."
- The Wet and Wavy Womanizer and the Long Hair Fetish, a repost of a story that originally ran here on the Snob Blog in 2009 about my experiences with certain black men who have a certain kind of hair obsession. Quote: "I am not my hair, as the song goes, but it seems that if you have a lot of hair and you don’t mind dating the occasional completely superficial fetishist you TOO can wallow in the shallow love of the impossible beauty standard."
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You are funny DB. I really enjoyed this article and believe most people are world weary and they prefer the devil they know than the one they don’t since no one is perfect. If you have been married for a long time what do you do with the memories? All your vacations, family events, do you just through the photos away? As long as your spouse is not physically abusive, half your life spent with a spouse who you have had some good times with is hard to give up for an uncertain future. I think many famous people have quick divorces because they are constantly and very aggressively barraged with seemingly better offers. But for the average Jack or Jill they may get an offer here or there for a dinner date with someone comparable to their current mate, but the contenders are normally not insanely aggressive as the groupies of the famous, because they are normally genuine and not interested in gain. It must be very difficult for a famous person to sift through the genuine people who love them for them and those who will do anything, say anything for fame and fortune.
Oops…. throw the photos away?
Co-sign Mary, when I got divorced I was lucky to have the guys who were mad I got married come back around, but I can tell when current boyfriend wearies of the stories of the trip to Singapore and Japan and England and Mexico I took with the ex and our kids. I am on good terms with my ex which is good and I do have many good memories (along with the bad). I don't regret us not being together, but I do cherish the years I had as a parent and at times as a wife and would do it over again even if I knew the end result. Have not remarried yet, but dating and waiting happily.
Oh, I like Brad and Angelina and I hope they stay together because they piss off sooo many people, but do reasonably substantive philanthropic work and IMO don't really try to be in the media. They just are. The rest Pffffft!
I love your hair & makeup in this pic! What shade of shadow are you wearing?
@ I Am Your People
Not sure. That's from when makeup artist Demi V. made me up for a photo shoot. I'm terrible with makeup. What I personally own is all random and mix-match. Ten-thousand year old Clinque foundation with Laura Mercier concealer, Smashbox blush and Bobbie Brown eye shadow. Stuff that was free with purchase. Etc.
That is a fabulous picture of you!