I didn't see the whole interview. The clips I found of it were more than enough to make me uncomfortable as Mo'Nique's brother Gerald Imes discussed how as children he sexually molested his sister. Oprah interviewed Gerald, as well as he and Mo'Nique's parents about the abuse and the whole thing was unsettling. Largely because even though Mo'Nique OKed the interview with Oprah, she chose not to participate, making the whole thing seem like one part an examination of how deep denial can run in a family that has held the secret of abuse and another part uncomfortable exploitation featuring an odd apology from Gerald.
I think what bothered me the most is that the brother (and the parents to some extent) seemed to believe that it was up to Mo'Nique -- the victim -- to essentially get over what happened and bring their family back together. The reality is Mo'Nique was abused and her own brother also claims he was sexually abused, pointing to a much bigger and deeper problem. It's not Mo'Nique's job to "get over" her abuse for the sake of the family, it's the family's job to acknowledge the abuse, apologize and respect whatever decision she makes from there. And if that decision includes having nothing to do with her brother that should be respected. No one should be questioning why she, as a child, appeared "close" to her brother even after the abuse took place. The man is her brother, after all, and the pressure to keep things "normal" had to be tremendous.
What did you think while watching it? While Oprah spoke from her own experience as someone who was sexually abused as a child, some of the interview still felt exploitive to me. That it was more about the family wanting to prove that they weren't "monsters" rather than actually getting to heart of what causes the abuse of both your children to take place without a parent noticing and what better reactions parents need to have when they discover sexual abuse in their families. Because doing nothing and expected those abused to get over it isn't much of a solution at all.